Marriage is it a choice or a Compulsion ……?

Here we are……guys when they are above 25 and the girls when they are above 23 the question which haunts each n every single Indian person in this age faces is when are you getting married ???. Seems like something no one can escape easily in the land which has all its customs traditions predefined way of a lifestyle. Seriously do we ever know when we are going to get married?

The point over here is why make such an issue about the whole thing in the society where we all seem to be educated and we know its not that important thing in life although it has its importance but not the only thing. The way we treat is like it’s a compulsion in life and the person who doesn’t go through this is either unlucky or abnormal. I would simply want to make a point that what if a person doesn’t want to get married or have different goals or mindset or want to live his life in not a defined manner. There is the catch….its not possible at least in a Hindu religion and in a country like INDIA.

The person who tries to break this chain is often faced with family emotional drama, pressure from the whole society and in the end he breaks to the pressure and gets married thinking at later stages in his life why he did it (I m talking about in general). It’s just that I guess we have not yet understood the need of a marriage other than the fact that a person should be accessible to sex as his physical body demands it.

I don’t deny the fact but at the same time I think marriage is much more than what a person at the age of 25 -28 can think of and the girls between the age of 23-27.There are a few exceptions to the case the people who have not got married at all in their life and are happy but looking at that percentage I think you can easily count them on your fingers right now and am sure some would find it even difficult to think of a single person.

Whom are we fooling over here by getting married, ourselves or the other person or our family or the society? I can’t take the whole crap thing of arrange marriages Where the whole family of both the sides decide whether the girl and the guy are suitable for each other or not and that too in just 1 meeting or at the most two to three.

So is there a solution to the whole thing. Well the answer is there with each individual who sees and behave the way they want and not the way our society expects from us. If one can achieve such new defined manner in their life I am sure there will be less divorces and more happily married people in our country. I am certainly not against marriages but I want both the individuals to decide about it and not the age, family, the stages of life decide. Well I just want the person to have a choice about the whole thing whether he wants to get married or not.

Till than "MARRIAGE IS GOING TO BE A COMPULSARY CHOICE AND NOT A CHOICE “.

"Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own".

(The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho) .

Troubled times…..

Well I was just sitting and having dinner at a friends place and suddenly we started recollecting our school days and the problems we faced like failing in an particular subject (for me it was always marathi) or getting into some kind of trouble with the teacher or getting caught by the parents (u know how we all r during teens..i guess no need to mention the reasons)…..and with the discussion continuing we had a great laugh about and almost for each bad experience that happened in our life.

So I was just thinking but at that moment was I enjoying what was happening around me and the answer is no. After getting out of college we face trouble giving an interview finishing our work on time or having a crush on a girl/guy who is definitely not interested in u but today we thank god that u r no longer hooked with that person or he/she got married to some1 else or how u came out of the trouble or u got urself screwed up n made a mess, still u will see that while discussing it with friends u are laughing on it. So most of the troubles we face in life ends up as a good memory (not every trouble though) which we love discussing n sharing with our friends.

So now the question is why i m writing this, well even I m trying to figure that out. Can we just not enjoy the trouble with a smiling face that once it is over its not that bad as it seems today coz one thing which is gona be a part of our lives is trouble which exist in some or the other way and I m sure that even today we don’t enjoy being a part of it. So from now on if you are getting late for a date(which m sure guys will never be),office or u have not finish the work or u have messed with some1 or u r broke(as recession is going on n m kind of…..lol) PLEASE DON’T FORGET TO SMILE and enjoy yourself being in a trouble.

“Life is like a cigarette. It has been lighted so enjoy it coz it has to end whether u want it or not.”

LOVE - an unsolved mystery

Sometimes we think we have figured out everything we need to know about love and the very next moment we are lost, well that’s love. Pyramids of Egypt, Bermuda Triangle ,UFO’S are some of the unsolved mysteries of the universe which might get solved one day but am afraid about love but till then love falls in the same category because no wonder how many have figured it out it always redefines itself which is something unique about it.

KABIR says “Love’s not grown in gardens,/ Love’s not sold at market./ He who wants it, king or commoner,/ gives his head and takes it”.
There is only one way to obtain love: the man who wants love gives his head. He will have to sacrifice his ego, his pretence, his false show. This is what Kabir means by ‘head’.

According to Kabir, a man of letters is a scholar who has only read about love. The Hindi word for love is ‘prem’, and is made up of two and a half letters. Kabir says to read these two and a half letters in a book is meaningless. Only when a person falls in love with someone do the two and half letters of ‘Prem’ become complete. One letter is for the lover, the second is for the beloved and the half is for something unknown that exists between the two.

No matter how hard you try, love never becomes complete. You are never content... It is also an indication that it is everlasting. Remember, whatsoever attains to completion, dies. To remain incomplete is love’s nature. So a lover is never satisfied and therefore his joy is endless.

So from now on lets stop defining love and compromise life in the name of love.Lets just live a life full of love and not based on practical theories do's n don'ts.If u love a person and he\she loves u too there is nothing u can ask for more.

"THERE ARE TWO TYPES OF PEOPLE,ONE WHO CRIES BY HEART & THE ONE WITH EYES.ITS THE ONE WITH HEART THAT SHOULD MATTERS & NOT WITH THE EYES". BY AK(thts me)